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Support or Advise?

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Men are from Mars and Woman are from Venus. Men like to solve problems while women need to talk it out and then they will solve the problem. The problem will be solved but in a different format. In both of these situations, both sexes need support and advice only when asked.

When someone does not take your advice it isn’t because the person doesn’t value your suggestions or is being stubborn. It is not an insult! Remember, it is not about you. The person may want to figure things out themselves or need to put all the facts in order before taking action. They may be feeling really down on themselves that they can’t figure out a problem and at that moment advice would just make them feel worse about themselves. Ego can play a big role in the ability to take advice. Yet, the other option is that the person is really struggling and may just need your love and support. They know what they need to do, but it is a really tough decision to make.

For example, this past spring I had to put both my horse and dog to sleep. Everyone knew what I needed to do, but I didn’t need anyone to tell me what to do. I needed love and support through a very difficult process. Then when I needed to get myself out of a lot of sadness, rather than telling me what I needed to do to lift my spirits, once again, I just needed a hug and support.

It has taken many years, but I am so very grateful for the opportunity over the last almost 20 years to be a healing entity in people’s lives because I realized that people want to be listened to, understood, and feel supported, not advised. I only give advice when I am asked or if someone’s safety is drastically at stake.

I watch a movie called “Mucho, Mucho, Amore” about Walter Mercado who was an astrologist on tv in Mexico and all over the world for many years in the ’70s and ’80s. Walter was born with a healing ability and his parents embraced this at a young age. Even though he was not your typical little boy from Mexico, instead he liked to look pretty and talk about astrology, his family loved and supported him. He never felt judged or that he needed to hide who he was. That made him flourish. He was adored. His messages were all of love and boosted people’s morale. In the movie, he talks about never telling someone what to do or what is going to happen, but instead, he lifted their spirits so that positive things would happen. I highly recommend this movie and this way of life.

Whereas last week we focused on praise over ridicule so you elevate rather than deflate yourself and others, this week offer support rather than advice and always choose love.

Faith, Hope, and Love and the greatest of these is Love. 1 Corinthians 13:13


Voyage to HEAL Weekly Task

Stretch: The pelvic inflare. We are winding down to almost our last way to correct pelvic imbalances. This week, imagine your pelvis while doing the hola hoop, rotating on the coronal plane as if dividing the body in half front and back. An inflared pelvis curves inward toward the belly bottom. Lots of crossing your legs may cause this. So a simple stretch is to cross your legs the opposite way or lay on your back with your knees bent and allow 1 leg at a time to fall to the side.

Exercise: Hula Hoop! Even if you do not have a hula hoop turn a timer on for 2 minutes and act as if you do. Make sure to rotate to the right and to the left. Put Wipe Out on and go to town.

Habitual Correction: Stop crossing your legs on the same side. Go for neutral or cross the opposite leg over.

Perspective Enlightenment: My only purpose is to love

Godspeed on your Voyage to HEAL learning Healthy Everyday Activities for Life





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