Life can bring about some hard decisions and some things are easier said than done. We know what has to be done, but our heart just can’t allow us to do it. What do you do when this happens? How do you make that decision to listen to your head or your heart?
Here are your options:
- You take the advice from someone you trust, but this could be giving your power of decision away. If you do take the advice of someone else and follow it, they are not responsible for the outcome. You still made the decision to take their advice.
- You listen to your heart because that is where God talks to you. The only challenge with this is that some decisions aren’t heart matters and need to be looked at as a business matter or quality of life decision, but we may have our heart already wrapped around that person, animal, event, or thing. Think of a teenager in love. They may be head over heels in love with a boy, but you as a parent know he is not good for her. She may know that he is not good for her, but her heart is completely infatuated with him. Here’s where the head needs to take over. Now take that same scenario, but say they are good for each other and they just had an argument. Here’s where God could provide guidance on how to mend a disagreement with love because the heart is involved.
- You listen to that logic voice in your head, calculate out every situation, and make the best decision based on the facts of a situation. It sounds cold, but it does have its benefits to remove your heart from a situation so you can make a decision without overwhelming emotions involved that will alter your decision. Depending on your personality, this can be a really tough thing to do because you are overly compassionate and so full of love and understanding.
So, what do we do when our head and our heart are not in agreement? We trust that we will make the right decision by being still, praying, meditating, and taking our time to make the decision. Ask yourself, what is most important or what do I hope to gain? The only decisions I have ever regretted are the ones I made too fast or felt pushed into. Now, if I am being pushed into a decision, my automatic answer is no. When you take the time to fully listen and write down what both your head and your heart are trying to tell you, then you will have the best of both worlds and the right decision will be made. Truthfully, there are no right or wrong decisions. They are just decisions.
In the stillness of not knowing, we truly figure out what we want and what is most important.
Voyage to HEAL Weekly Thoughts
Stretch: Use a rolling pin on those tight areas including thighs, calves, forearms, and feet. Go gentle and stop at any point that is tender. Very gently roll this area without getting into a battle with your body. No fights allowed between you and your body.
Exercise: Activate your pelvic floor and core muscles, hold a chair if needed, and lift one knee at a time 8x. Repeat on the other side. Now, lift and hold for 5 seconds, 5 times. The goal is to keep your trunk still, core activated, and move slowly feeling the stability of the core muscles.
Habitual Change: Go with the flow. Don’t rush. Hibernate.
Perspective Enlightenment: I give myself the time to make a decision.
“If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another.
The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience.
If this sounds too mystical, refer again to the body. Every significant vital sign- body temperature, heart rate, oxygen consumption, hormone level, brain activity, and so on- alters the moment you decide to do anything… decisions are signals telling your body, mind, and environment to move in a certain direction.”
― Deepak Chopra, The Book of Secrets: Unlocking the Hidden Dimensions of Your Life
Godspeed on your Voyage to HEAL
Love and blessings,
Jocelyn